…just because my mentee is not Black.
So my mentee and I hang out alot…and since I don’t have a car in Manhattan we typically (ok..always) get around via public transportation. So on one of our outings we are both sitting on the bus chatting when the adorable little baby gets on the bus! My Nana always teases me and says that I like dogs more than I like babies (I plead the 5th)…either way this baby was ADORABLE and deserved my undivided attention. The mother appeared to be hispanic and the father was probably white (in NYC its so damn hard to tell)…the baby was maybe a 6 months old boy with grey eyes and straight brownish blond hair. I zone out and start making faces at the baby and smiling…
Once the baby gets off I regain my composure (I do have to pretend to be an adult when I hang with my mentee) and resume conversation with my mentee…
Mentee: My baby cousin looks like that baby
M: Yup…except he has blue eyes and blond hair. He has that really good hair like that baby did. He is the envy of the family…the rest of us have bad hair.
dammit…seriously? Do we have to go there. So I don’t jump on her and just change the subject. Later in the day I just can’t help myself and revisit the conversation…
Clu: So you straighten your hair
M: Huh? Oh yeah..
Clu: What would your hair be like if you didn’t straighten it?
M: Horrible! Really really bad
Hmm k…yeah. You guys will be surprised that I let it drop again. I was honestly caught off guard…I know this conversation will come up again…and now that I know this is an “issue” I should be better equipped to handle it (I hope)
But…question: would you have corrected her? and if so, how? (keep in mind this is NOT your child or someone you are related to)